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Am I in Love ?

The biggest motivator for me to write this article is solely my sweet best friend Stefina Rayan as recently she was in dilemma as to how to identify whether an individual is in love or not. So I decided to do some analysis and as far as possible give my best logical and emotional views.

It is a very common question, "How can I tell I'm in love?", but it is not an easy question to answer. What feels like love to one person may be nothing more than attraction or deep friendship to another. Some people fall in and out of love quickly and often while others are never really in love as much as they are in lust. This can get confusing when you are a teen because romantic love is a relatively new concept for u and u don't know what to expect. It is very much important to know the difference between love, lust, attraction and deep friendship and hence me making an effort below to give in an explanatory way as to what is LOVE:

1.  Lust is clearly not love.
2. Love is based on more than just physical attraction.
3. Sure, attraction is a factor, but love goes deeper than that.
4. Love is based on caring, friendship, commitment and trust.
5. When you are in love it is as if you have your best most trusted friend at your side AND you feel physically attracted to them. It is the best of both worlds!
6. Love is a shared feeling between two people who care for each others happiness.
7. Love is not about jealousy. It is not about conflict. It is not about testing.
8. Love is a positive feeling.
9. Love is the total surrender of your heart to another person with the security of knowing they will treat it better than you will.
10.  Love should feel good. It should not feel bad.
11. Love should make you want to be a better person, it should not lead you to wrong path.
12. Love is not demanding.
13. Anything less is lust, deep friendship or attraction. So the question remains, how can you tell you are in love?

There is no easy way to find the truth behind your feelings or the feelings of another person but there are some signs that love is growing deeper. If you agree with 7 of the following 9 statements you are probably in love.

a)      You know you are in love when every time you start to think about the one you love, butterflies start flying in your stomach, gets constant happiness etc. 

b)      You know you are in love when you find yourself shopping with that person and you feel like everything is right in the world. 

c)      You know you are in love when you can't stop touching that person.

d)      You know you are in love when you feel miserable when you are away from that person.

e)      You know you are in love when you start planning a future in your head.

f)        You know you are in love when can't stop smiling every time you see that person.

g)      You know you are in love when can't get them off your mind, always wanting to be with them, anxious to see them and Indescribable feeling generate in the back of your mind.

h)      If sex is part of your relationship it is by mutual desire and agreement without the slightest hint of commitment testing or persuasion.

i)        You are more yourself when you are with that person than you are with anybody else.

1. “I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.” ― Marilyn Monroe
2. “You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” ― Dr. Seuss
3. “In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on.” ― Robert Frost
4. “A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.” ― Elbert Hubbard
5. “I am so clever that sometimes I don't understand a single word of what I am saying.” ― Oscar Wilde
6. “Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.” ― Marilyn Monroe
7. “Never put off until tomorrow what you can do the day after tomorrow.” ― Mark Twain
8. “I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.” ― Thomas A. Edison
9. “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” ― Mother Teresa
10. Never fight with a pig. You will get dirty, and the pig will love it.~from Mona Hopper 
11. "Take what's given to you, make the most of it, and never be satisfied." -George Washington Carver- 
12. It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return. But what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel. ― Unknown
13. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone-but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.― Unknown
14. Always put yourself in the other's shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the person too.― Unknown
15. Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.- Dr. Seuss
16. Work like you don't need the money, love like you've never been hurt and dance like no one is watching.- Randall G Leighton
17. Never allow someone to be your priority while you're just their option- Unknown
18. “Home is where you are loved the most and act the worst.” ― Marjorie Pay Hinckley
19. “Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.” ― William Shakespeare, All's Well That Ends Well
20. “Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” ― Robert A. Heinlein, Stranger in a Strange Land
21. “Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.” ― Mother Teresa
22. “I am good, but not an angel. I do sin, but I am not the devil. I am just a small girl in a big world trying to find someone to love.” ― Marilyn Monroe
23. “Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind.” ― William Shakespeare, A Midsummer Night's Dream
24. “If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything.” ― Marilyn Monroe
25. “Remember, we're madly in love, so it's all right to kiss me anytime you feel like it.” ― Suzanne Collins,
26. “What can you do to promote world peace? Go home and love your family.” ― Mother Teresa
27. “Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.” ― Confucius

 

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GOOD HABITS FOR PERSOAL FINANCE

        

         
      1.      Tracking your expenses on daily basis.

2.      Making personal balance sheet and profit and loss account to know your own net worth.

3.      Being careful not to overspend.

4.   Never buying anything on impulse. One of the best ways to help prevent this is to make a shopping list and then stick to it.

5.      Opening your bills when you get them.

6.      Paying your bills online when possible.

7.      Doing your research before purchasing extended warranties.

8.      Ignoring credit card convenience checks that come in the mail. They usually come with high fees that make them extremely expensive.

9.      Saving part of your income for retirement. Try saving at least 10 percent from every paycheck; it’s never too late to start.

10.  Keeping the money in your wallet to a minimum.

11.  Spending less than you earn every month.

12.  Avoid spending on Credit. As long as when it come to take things on credit, do plan as to whether you can repay it or not.

13.   Taking advantage of automatic paycheck deductions. Not only does it ensure you pay yourself first, it’s an easy and painless way to save for retirement.

14.  Reading all contracts before signing on the dotted line.

15.  Reviewing your credit card statements for errors and erroneous charges.

16.  Keeping a budget. Because for most folks, when it comes to managing their money, failing to plan is the same as planning to fail.

17.  Sincerely following your budget. It’s one thing to create a budget, but if you don’t have the discipline to put it into action, why bother?

18.  Paying the bills on time. By doing so you’ll avoid spending money on needless late fees.

19.  Taking advantage of coupons and internet promotional codes as often as possible.

20.  Refusing to pay the minimum on your credit card bills each month. Here’s a credit card fact: making minimum payments each month will ensure you pay the maximum interest.

21.  Never hoping for an inheritance to solve your money problems.

22.  Avoiding the lottery. 

23.  Setting, and then regularly reviewing and updating your savings goals.

24.  Never overpaying for insurance.

25.  Fully understanding stocks and other financial instruments before investing in them. Never assuming past performance guarantees future results.

26.  Negotiating whenever the opportunity presents itself.

27.  Ensuring your retirement needs are taken care of prior to providing for your children’s future. What good is saving for the kids’ college education if you’ll be eating cat food in your golden years?

28.  Occasionally rewarding yourself by spending lavishly.

29.  Maintaining an emergency fund. Everyone should have between three and six months of living expenses in the bank.

30.  Treating your household like a business. By taking an active role in managing your finances — and looking at ways to maximize your income — you’ll ensure a brighter financial future for you and your family.

RESOLUTIONS FOR 2013

1.       To keep track  of my daily expenses

2.       To cut down leisure expenses

3.       To spend more quality time with family

4.       To stop saying unnecessary lie

5.       To stop taking any activity for granted

6.       To reach office by 10 o’clock.

7.       To cultivate habit of speaking in English.

8.       To stop having illogical conversation.

9.       To stop wasting time in all manner.

10.   To concentrate on upgrading my skills and competence.

11.   To join ICAI course

12.   To make a saving of Rs.1000000/-

13.   To sleep by 11.00 pm

14.   To learn cooking food

15.   To change my dressing style.

16.   To increase vocabulary knowledge.

17.   To make 100 new friends.

18.   To visit 10 new place.

19.   To invest in real estate.

20.   To get 5 new clients.

21.   To repay all my debts

22.   To make daily note of experience in draft (hotmail).

23.   To be a good daughter/ good friend/ citizen/professional.

24.   To have own 500 posts in my blog.

25.   To be thankful to god as going to support me for whatever resolution I promise to follow.

1/1/2013 11:51:31 PM           THANK YOU