The biggest motivator for me
to write this article is solely my sweet best friend Stefina Rayan as recently
she was in dilemma as to how to identify whether an individual is in love or
not. So I decided to do some analysis and as far as possible give my best logical
and emotional views.
It is a very common question,
"How can I tell I'm in love?", but it is not an easy question to
answer. What feels like love to one person may be nothing more than attraction
or deep friendship to another. Some people fall in and out of love quickly and
often while others are never really in love as much as they are in lust. This
can get confusing when you are a teen because romantic love is a relatively new
concept for u and u don't know what to expect. It is very much
important to know the difference between love, lust, attraction and deep
friendship and hence me making an effort below to give in an explanatory way as
to what is LOVE:
- Lust is clearly not love.
- Love is based on more than just physical attraction.
- Sure, attraction is a factor, but love goes deeper than that.
- Love is based on caring, friendship, commitment and trust.
- When you are in love it is as if you have your best most trusted friend at your side AND you feel physically attracted to them. It is the best of both worlds!
- Love is a shared feeling between two people who care for each others happiness.
- Love is not about jealousy. It is not about conflict. It is not about testing.
- Love is a positive feeling.
- Love is the total surrender of your heart to another person with the security of knowing they will treat it better than you will.
- Love should feel good. It should not feel bad.
- Love should make you want to be a better person, it should not lead you to wrong path.
- Love is not demanding.
- Anything less is lust, deep friendship or attraction. So the question remains, how can you tell you are in love?
There is no easy way to find the
truth behind your feelings or the feelings of another person but there are some signs that love is growing deeper. If you agree with 7
of the following 9 statements you are probably in love.
a) You
know you are in love when every time you start to think about the one you love,
butterflies start flying in your stomach, gets constant happiness etc.
b) You
know you are in love when you find yourself shopping with that person and you
feel like everything is right in the world.
c) You
know you are in love when you can't stop touching that person.
d) You
know you are in love when you feel miserable when you are away from that
person.
e) You
know you are in love when you start planning a future in your head.
f)
You know you are in love when can't stop
smiling every time you see that person.
g) You
know you are in love when can't get them off your mind, always wanting to be
with them, anxious to see them and Indescribable feeling generate in the back
of your mind.
h) If
sex is part of your relationship it is by mutual desire and agreement without
the slightest hint of commitment testing or persuasion.
i)
You are more yourself when you are with that person than you are with anybody else.
